Featuring the Briefing Moms Panel. ... She writes: "I enjoy teaching my daughters all the wonderful aspects of our Hispanic heritage, including the Spanish language and how to prepare tasty, but healthy, traditional Hispanic foods. ...Everyone is not meant to be skinny and there is nothing wrong with being thick and I'm teaching my daughter that. I'm a thick chick with curves and I love it. Maybe you should try it!! Kontagiousone OnOct 29, 2009 at 12:55 pm (Quote) ... Very pretty girl out enjoyn moms company..let pretty rich black girls be shoppn @ American Girl..that's balln for a lil girl..peep syrai doll baby game its 2of em..together w/ accessories prolly cost like LV bags..a�?Step ya dollys up!a�? ...Moms a�� you are the ones that have the responsibility of teaching your daughters how to live and be prepared for biblical womanhood. In the words of Carolyn Mahaney, it should be your a�?highest attention to prepare daughtersa�? in marriage, ...Maybe if little Tomy wasn't a�?Dad's biggy boya�? and little Sally wasn't a�?mom's little Princessa�? we'd have real education in this country. Maybe if some parents actually *pretended* to dive a damn that'd help too. My sympathy to all the teachers out ... You raise an interesting question, the answer of which I think points to the intelligence of the two daughters, more so than Jaycee's a�?teaching skillsa�?. My husband teaches, and yes, there are many students in the classroom. ...As the Head Crayon Wrangler, I am teaching them to Color Outside The Lines. To define their own creativity and just be kids. While encouraging this freedom, I am also trying to get them to quit staining the carpet, stop pulling each ... Life with three daughters. Future financial planning for weddings. The art of the "Shotgun Wedding". Series 5: 101 Top Toys of Christmas 2009; Buying toys during a down economy. How to create toys using string, paint and empty paper towel ...It's cute when first time moms brag about their kids and the rest of us can chuckle a little knowing most kids are that smart! What her daughter does sound pretty typical to me but let her brag, it's her right as a parent. .... I read somewhere that force teaching is bad so I never did it with my two kids. Ever. I wanted them to see learning (in a classroom) was fun and new. I teach them basic life skills like folding laundry, putting away dishes, dressing themselves, ...politics from the eyes of an ebony mom. political perspectives from Joni Hudson-Reynolds, an African-American Mom. A� White House Finally Admits Fox News is Not News A� Glenn Beck and Fox News Are Now the Victims A�. Teaching Our Daughters to Love Themselves. 89773818. As a young girl I was blessed to have parents that encouraged me to reach for the stars. They made me feel not only smart, but beautiful. My grandmother was another story. She was what was called a�?high yellowa�? ...I spent 5 hours last weekend at a swim meet (in which my daughter swam 3 races each lasting less than a minute), Apart from those 3 minutes, I consider that time wasted as I had to stay in the area, yet could not interact with my .... So I guess after 35 years of teaching and never having married or had children, I should just call Dr. Kovorkian? Link; Report this comment. YUKI. October 29th, 2009 8:54 am. I don't think people without children are a�?wasting their timea�?. ...A Republican state representative in Georgia bought his 4-year-old daughter a hot pink .22 caliber gun for her birthday. No, we are not making this up. ... Do any of the moms who post on here have a brain? Did you all take stupid pills before logging on? What is the problem here? All I'm seeing is the word irresponsible being thrown around, but I never read about anything irresponsible going on. She will a�?accidentlya�? shoot her brother? Why was accidently put in quotes? ...
I have 5 kids (Alyse 3 - Max & Evalee 17m - Beckett & Brylee 5m) I am also 8 weeks pregnant. My husband is an OB/GYN in Manhattan. I teach 4th grade at a private school in Manhattan. Our kids go to the child care program at the hospital.
My 3 year old really loves it- she has made alot of friends and likes all of her teachers. My 17m old daughter loves it but her twin doesn't.
Financially, I don't have to work. I feel like I am cheating them out of my time by sending them to day care.
Also there are days when I have a conference and my husband works the late shift and my parents will take the kids.
I am seriously considering quitting teaching after this year and when I have the baby.
Any advice or personal experience would be greatly appreciated
My 1 year old has not slept thru the night since he was born...I don't know what to do...it is wearing on my relationships with my fiance and step daughter...I am grouchy, tired, and simply at my wits end. I can't stand to hear him cry and he does not fall asleep after a few minutes...it is hours. He has a bedtime routine...bath, snack, story, bed. He falls asleep only when I am holding him and then when he does fall asleep he is up about every 2-3 hours. I am willing to try anything at this point...btw tried sleep sense and 3 day sleep solution...no luck
Any suggestions??????
A Very Stressed Out Mom
My daughter is 18 mths and about 3-4 days of the week we stay home all day. When I stay home with my daughter I find myself watching television while she plays with her toys in front of me. I know ...I feel really guilty and I feel like such a bad mom ....and well I am a bad mom for doing this....
I just can't play with her for a long period of time with her toys...or read the same books over and over again. I love taking her out to the park, aquarium, and places...I'm great with taking her to places and showing her new things....but when I'm at home for some reason I get so lazy!....I play with her toys for a little bit...read her a book or two...try to teach her shapes...and sing songs.....but I end up watching tv more than interacting with her.
I feel like I need to fix this fast....I feel like I'm wasting time where she can be learning so much more...than just playing by herself while mommy watches her tv shows. I feel so upset with myself....and disappointed that I cant give my daughter my complete attention when we're at home!....
Even today I was so into what was going on in my drama.....that she came sat on my lap and tilted her head left and right trying to block my view from the tv......that just made me so sad and so disgusted with myself...
Please help?? I want to make a schedule of things to do with my daughter throughout the entire day so she has my attention instead of my eyes glued to tv.
My daughter is 3 months old, and my mom has started bugging me about getting her into a bedtime routine (I would like one too!). The thing is, we only give our daughter a bath every other night. That's what the nurse who taught our childcare class, and our pediatrician, both recommended. She doesn't spit up very often so she really doesn't need a bath every night. Is it possible to have an effective bedtime routine that only includes a bath every other night? Or will this mess up the whole system? My mom and I disagree on this (she says baths EVERY NIGHT), and it's the first argument we've had over baby care.
Tonight was not a bath night, so I fed her, changed her, put on her pajamas, read a book in the glider, and then put her in her crib. It took her quite some time--and a lot of crying--to fall asleep...but then again, she's used to falling asleep while we're holding her (also something I'm trying to change). Is this enough of a routine for non-bath night, do you think?
Argh, I'm so frustrated! I hate fighting with my mom over something like this...
How can you help a child who has a mother that has all but given up on them and everything really?
I've known this family for years. I've known these girls since they were little. The girls now are 15 and 11.
Their dad drives tour buses for various musicians so he is rarely home. These kids have always walked all over their mother. Since they were little she would ship them off to their grandparents if they got to be too much to handle.
Well the 15 year old has pretty much moved out. She lives at her grandmothers the whole time her dad isn't home, when he is home he makes her stay at the house. And the younger one pretty much runs the show at home.
Mom just sits and plays on the computer or watches tv anymore, she never spends anytime with the kids.
The other night I saw the older girl. She was on her way to a party dressed in a dress that was very low cut, almost showed everything down below and fishnet stockings. She looked like a prostitute.
And she told me not to tell her mom but the party she was going to had boys and is going to be unsupervised.
I let her mom know immediately and she said she actually bought her the outfit (it wasn't worth the fight) and that her daughter is going to have to make her own mistakes, she doesn't have the energy anymore to deal with this.
Now if that girl turns up pregnant all the blame is going to fall on her and not her parents who should know what she is doing and actively be part of her life and protecting her and teaching her.
How can you help a child who has a father that is absent and a mother that has basically given up on life, not to mention given up on her kids?
By the way the older daughter is no on any type of birthcontrol because she told her mom she isn't having sex and isn't planning on it?
(But one of the girls she hangs out with, her and her boyfriend got pregnant on purpose and now she is 15 and raising a baby on her own)
ADD: these two girls have a special place in my heart and I want to help them but without over stepping ofcourse
ADD: I am very close to the younger girl. (What makes this harder is these are relatives)
My oldest daughter is 4 yrs, about to turn 5 at the end of November. She is generally a very well behaved kid except that when she DOES do something wrong, she immediately lies about it and tries very hard to cover her evidence. I've tried talking to her about lying but i've never really felt like i was getting through. Today i found out i was right.
At walmart we were on line and i noticed she was holding her arm funny, at first it looked like she bumped her elbow and i asked what was up and if she was ok. As soon as i saw her reaction i could tell it was something different... and upon investigation i found it: she was attempting to steal a grape. (I had said no to getting grapes earlier because they were gross and old looking, but said we could see if the local grocery store have better tomorrow.)
I never shoplift. And i'm a single mom, so i'm the only one she ever goes shopping with. Also we don't have cable tv (we rent preschool shows on netflix though) She really seems sneaky by nature or something, i don't know where else she learned this stuff from. Shes my oldest kid and I honestly wasn't expecting to have to talk about "stealing" for at least another year or two. I'm looking for some general opinions as to what you guys teach your toddlers/preschool age kids about lying and stealing?
How have you attempted to curb them from trying to cover the evidence when they do something wrong?
Have you ever caught them trying to steal?
What about blaming their siblings, or even pets for things they've done? (she blames our dog and her 1 year old sister for ridiculous things all the time)
This is literally the biggest behavior problem i have with her and obviously my methods haven't been working. Thanks for all your advice =)
PS: She goes to preschool (its her second year, due to her birthday she can't start kindergarten until 2010) and shes met police officers and stuff like that through learning events; this might sound weird... but shes afraid of them because of the guns, and because she sees them "drive crazy".. so if any suggestions have to do with teaching her about "the law", i do think it might be a good suggestion, but it would need to be something i can personally talk to her about, not having an officer or someone like that trying to explain it. But geez, shes barely 5... i don't know to go about getting her to comprehend that stuff correctly =/ again thanks for your help!
well, there is no way it has anything to with her little sister because shes not even 1 yet, and and the preschooler has been doing these things for about 3 years now (lying/hiding things even when the truth has been shown to her). Also she loves her sister to death and isn't the least bit jealous of her, she loves sharing her toys with her and loves playing with her in general, and always wants her around.
Her feeling "unloved or unwanted" doesn't make sense because all my free time that i'm not at work is with her and her sister. we do everything together and shes a very happy well behaved kid, very social and loves to play with other kids, and talks non stop. I don't know, this answer tries to make it seem like there's something mentally wrong with her due to an abused lifestyle. That's the farthest thing from the truth. I just wanted to know how other parents teach their kids that lying is wrong/bad. I highly disagree with this one answer i received, for my case anyway.
In the beginning it was just my mom, my little sis rose, and me walking inside a mall and enjoying our time as mother and daughters. It wasna��t until we got home, I noticed what my mom was really trying to do. She was saying good bye to me and rose for good because she was leaving rose and me with my aunt, Jean hathaway. My aunt, Jean, was the most funniest person to live with.
a�?Dona��t worrya�? she said to me a�? I will still be able to see you once things are settled, and when I move out.a�?
a�? like thata��ll happena�? I replied a�? I mean you say youa��ll see me, but youa��ll just leave me with aunty; you always do!a�?
All my mom did was sigh and retreat outside to talk to my aunt and she said something that worried my aunt more than it should have. I was capable of maintaining a stable life with or with out my mom and ever since my dad died I was perfectly able to take care of me and my little sister, Rose. oh, I guess I never introduced my little sis, Rose. Rose has always been a supporter, and she was not your regular student; rose was a genius. Rose had a way of persuading people to do what she said even though it was also hard on her for loosing our dad in that car crash. After that, Rose was silent for a very long time, but soon enough she went out of her shell and started to communicate with some of her old friends who excepted her back with open arms. Many things changed after our fateful father a�?dieda�? in a mysterious car crash with me and my sister inside with him two years ago. They could not identify if the body was even our dad or any one else, and since I had amnesia, I was useless.
a�? come on Leah lets hit the rode before we hit the traffica�? called our aunt from the car taking me out of my reverie.
a�?sure, Ia��m coming aunty Jeana�? I yelled back
If only I could remember what happened things would not have happened, I would be at school playing volley ball with me friends Ally and sam. Let me explain that, since I cana��t remember who was with me in the car besides my little sis, they decided it had to be my father because he never came back home even though they found a burned body that couldna��t be identified, so they pronounced him dead. I had to stay with my mom; now my mom does not want to deal with me and she tried to take Rose away from me, but Rose would not allow to be away from me for one second. Next thing I knew Rose was with me going to my aunts house in Denalli.
a�? youa��re going to like Denalli, girls.a�? my aunt said to me and Rose. a�? ita��s hot and therea��s sometimes rain there.a�?
a�?greata�? I muttered a�? maybe there will be more time to spend in doors than out side.a�?
my aunt then never spoke out for the whole ride there towards her home town. We were now in Denalli and it was the most muggiest place I have seen. It looks like my aunt had her weather wrong about Denalli; she was never into watching the news these days anyway, and she would always say that watching the news were for boring people. As we drove into the drive through, I saw three pale boys playing basketball on a drive way. Once I got out of the car, the boys suddenly stopped playing their game. They were staring at me and my little sis and then resumed their game; all of them played except for one of the boys, who was looking at me; more like observing me with his eyes. Next thing I knew he turned his head when I looked at him. Was it me he was looking at? or was he looking at the car? My aunt owned a beautiful red toyota that was always shiny. Maybe he was looking at the car and i just interpreted wrong? I wanted to be sure what he was looking at, so I turned my head again. Once I did, the boy turned his head quickly again. hmm this was interesting.
a�? Aunty Jean, who are those boys?a�? I asked
a�? Oh, those boys go to the school I teach at.a�? she replied.
a�? whoa��s the one observing them, the one that stopped playing with them?a�? I asked another question.
a�? Oh, that Dimitriusa�? she replied. a�? hea��s the captain of the basket ball team, and those boys that I told you go to your new school are all part of the basketball team and his brothers.a�? so the mystery boys name is dimitrius?
a�? why?a�? she asked curiously a�? do you want me to introduce you to them?a�?
a�?What!a�? I almost nearly yelled. I would be too embarrassed to interrupt their game just to say hi to me! a�? No, ita��s okay I just wanted to know the neighbors thats alla�?
a�? Dona��t be ridiculous Leaha�? she said a�? Ia��ll introduce you. Oh boooooooys! can you be dears and come over here for a second and help me!a�? she yelled across from the road. They all looked up and ran across the street, including, Dimitrius, the one who was staring at something I didna��t know.
a�?Hey Ms. hathaway.a�? they all said in unison. a�? Did you need some thing?a�?
a�? Well..... I do.a�? she said a�? can you introduce yourselves to my two nieces and help with some of the heavy equipment? they will be living with me from know on and I want them to know everyone in Denallia�?
a�?Surea�? said one of them, he was really
I've been looking ALL OVER for this movie... I watched bits and peices of it on tv a couple years ago, and I really want to see the whole thing now. I can't find out what it's called though! here's all i remember:
- it's set in the olden days, maybe even colonial times?
- the main character is like a 20 year old woman or something, she's the daughter of a kind of wealthy man, i think her mom is dead
- like 3 rich guys propose to her; one's a preacher. i remember he proposed to her while she was teaching; he came in while she was teaching and was like "i have to talk to you" and she was like "umm well i'm teaching" "it's urgent" and then so she let the kids go and he proposed to her and she said no. she was kinda mad.
- there's this one guy who's of the unwealthy "side". he saves her dad from like a bear trap or something, but a wealthy guy takes credit, and her dad let's her believe that the wealthy guy saved him. when the wealthy guy proposes to her then, she feels an obligation to marry him
- i remember a scene where the wealthy people are dancing on one side of a fence, and the unwealthy side is dancing on the other. she sees the poor guy she secretly likes dancing w/ some girl and is jealous
- she breaks up w/ her fiance, and told him there was another (the unwealthy guy)
- the 2 guys that proposed to her and she refused them were drunk and they were mad at her (and they thought the guy who was the "other" she was in love w/ was the preacher), so they poured some sort of fluid (alcohol?) into the piano type thing that she plays at church, and so the next day when she started playing at church it sounded terrible and she got embarassed and ran away, and the unwealthy guy starts to chase after her to comfort her but they're like "let her go"
- i think it ends w/ her finding out that he, the poor guy, was actually the one who saved her father. i think her father is the one who tells her because she tells her dad she's in love w/ the unwealthy guy.. and she goes to the river where he's fishing or something, and his shirt is hanging on a tree and she takes it and joking around and he's like "give me my shirt back, if you please" (he's joking too) and then it ends w/ them in the river kissing i think haha
okay sorry this is long and confusing i just really want to watch this movie! i've been into these kinds of movies recently, for ex. i watched pride and prejudice last week.. so good!
thanks!
My town was having this "pre halloween" haunted house for little kids. I took my 4 year old stepson and 2 year old daughter to it. they loved it. they went threw it 4 times. the first time they went threw it it was Ryans first time being in a haunted house and he was scared. This guy jumped out and Ry screamed "F*CKERS!!!" I know cussing is wrong and im not teaching my kids to cuss and thats the first time ive heard him cuss. but honestly, i was Lmao. The person that was running the haunted house heard it and said i can take my "Out of control" son home now and not come back. Izzi and Ryan were the only kids there so its not like he taught a bunch of little kids to say it. It was funny. the guy that did it was bent over turning red laughing. Am i a bad mom because he said that?
Is this relationship between dad & daughter abnormal when Dad treats daugther better than everyone else in the family no matter what?
Is it okay for a divorced man to take his 15 yr old daughter to an expensive dinner every weekend especially when he is always complaining about his finances? My boyfriend has a daughter from his previous marriage and he says her mother doesn't treat her well. Basically the maternal mother is jealous of the daugther so he compensates for it. It seems to be a bit out of control to me though and I need help with this. He is constantly complaining about spending money but he will buy the most expensive everything for his daughter from shampoo, skin care products for her to the most expensive clothes, and then says he has no money to go to the movies or away with me on a weekend he doesn't have his kids. He can't take me out on a nice date without complaining about the expenses, and he can't buy his son a pair of socks, but everytime we stop at CVS the daughter leaves with an additional $25 worth of beauty products or hair accessories. His son cant get colonge but the daughter can have everything she wants. This started as soon as she got her priod. Honestly people, what 12 year old girl needs $20 razor blades or $30 shampoo? What 13 year old needs Juicy Couture, $150 Uggs, and coach bags? Does she have a job? He won't buy a video game for his son, but he takes the daughter out for an expensive steak dinner every weekend he has her because otherwise she will pout and throw a tantrum. She won't go to the movies with her dad and brother because it is embarassing for her friends to see her with her dad and brother and they have to go to another town when the dad wants to take the kids for a movie, but she feels okay going to an expensive dinner every weekend.
Anytime she throws a tantrum he lets her without any kind of punishment and anyone who points out the bad message this send out ends up getting punished instead. What little girl where thongs and gets their dad to buy them $50 push up bras? Have I lost my mind, or am I completely out of touch? I grew up with a mom and dad in the same home and a brother and none of this crap ever happened in my house! He acts as if his daugther is his partner and we all have to abide by her rules or pay the consequences. He boasts about her beauty, and popularity and how great she is, how she is happy all of the time - but he refuses to see she is happy because she manipulates him to get whatever she wants, and he follows, and then he ignores or blocks her mean acts towards others and her tantrums with him. He shares his personal life with her and what is going on in her brother's and he lets her decide what is best for her brother and they are only a year apart.
How do I get him to understand how this is desrtuctive not only to our relationship but also to the reltionships both his son and daugther will end up in as they grow older. He is basically teaching his daugther how to use men, and his son is conflicted as he sees his sister get everything while his father acts as if I am a rug.
I don't want to argue with him, but I guess I want to know if I have lost my mind. Should I jump ship and run for a life boat or what I can do to help him understand that this behavior is affecting our relationship and pushing me away. I am uncomfortable whenever she is sitting on him and sprawling on him, as well as when he yells at everyone else (his son, and myself) for trouble she causes. I mean honestly, I am beginning to think that this stuff about her mother is completely made up and the maternal mother is not really even jeaalous at all, but just disciplined and fed out with her daugther's manipulation!
Sorry this is so long but I need help.
I am tutoring my mom's friend's daughter who is having trouble reading and writing, and I'm trying to help her. I have no memory of learning to read, so I'm trying to help her read and write. Answers from teachers would be greatly appreciated, but if anyone else has any other ideas, no idea will be thrown away UNLESS not serious.
Well;; my teacher really gets on my nerves and its not going to be long until I get very mad and say something I really shouldn't. I have only been to the principal maybe 2 times in my life? So I'm not a troublemaker, but im a chatter.. But all my teachers have dealt with that.
So today I was in class and we were doing an essay for social studies so then my teacher (shes a chatter.. shes very weird.. but shes funny. She starts talking out of nowhere a lot) just started talking about how a kid was going to be in her class but then he changed classes, and how somebody in the class told her that the kid that transferred doesn't like her. About a day ago everyone told her who they knew that didn't like her, and I knew someone that she didn't know about, so I told her, thinking that she wouldn't care and just say the same thing that she did to the other kids that told her about people that didn't like her. So, I told her and she got really sad and started getting an attitude with me?
Me: You remember Taylor Marino?
Teacher: *smiling* Yes,
Me: Her mom said that she doesn't like you
(Remember that I usually don't think before I say things.. Bad Habit ]=)
Me: Yeah she said that you weren't teaching her daughter anything and that when her daughter got home she had to like home-school her because she had no idea what th homework was.
Teacher: Well thats not nice, Grace. Why did you tell me that? I really like her mom! Now whenever I see her around the school, which I do, I've seen her around the school about 2 times already this year, I'm going to wonder "Did she really say those things that Grace told me?"
Me: *silent*
Teacher: You know? Your supposed to think before you speak. Now you've said this in front of the whole class and its sort of embarrassing!
A lot of people don't like me, and thats ok.
*people in the class start saying "i like you!"*
Teacher: Its really ok if you say sorry
Me: Sorry *watering eyes*
Teacher: But now my feelings are hurt because I really liked her, and you shouldn't of said that.
Me: *about to cry, but I held it in*
She made me feel really bad.. I had no idea that she even knew the girls mom. Now i feel really bad and i dont know what to do :[ i know i was wrong but now I dont know what to do and i think shes always going to remember that and shes going to make me feel bad even more more more than ever when I make a tiny mistake on anything. She usually gets mad at people for no reason.. I dont know what her problem is but how can i make her like me again? Tomorrow shes probably going to say "im still hurt by what you told me about taylors mom, grace."
So..What should i do?
Is okay for a divorced man to take his 15 yr old daughter to an expensive steak dinner every weekend especially when he is always complaining about his finances? My boyfriend has a daughter from his previous marriage and he says her mother doesn't treat her well. Basically the maternal mother is jealous of the daugther so he compensates for it. It seems to be a bit out of control to me though and I need help with this. He is constantly complaining about spending money but he will buy the most expensive razors, shampoo, skin care products for her and the most expensive clothes, and then say he has no money to go to the movies or away with me on a weekend he doesn't have the kids.This started as soon as she got her priod. Honestly people, what 12 year old girl needs $20 razor blades or $30 shampoo? What 13 year old needs Juicy Couture glasses and coach bags? Does she have a job? He won't buy a video game for his son, but he takes the daughter out for a steak dinner every weekend he has her because otherwise she will pout and throw a tantrum. Anytime she throws a tantrum he lets her without any kind of punishment and anyone who points out the bad message this send out ends up getting punished instead. What little girl where thongs and gets their dad to buy them $50 push up bras? Have I lost my mind, or am I completely out of touch? I grew up with a mom and dad in the same home and a brother and none of this crap ever happened in my house! He acts as if his daugther is his partner and we all have to abide by her rules or pay the consequences. He boasts about her beauty, and popularity and how great she is, how she is happy all of the time - but he refuses to see she is happy because she manipulates him to get whatever she wants, and he follows, and then he ignores or blocks her mean acts towards others and her tantrums with him. How do I get him to understand how this is desrtuctive not only to our relationship but also to the reltionships both his son and daugther will end up in as they grow older. He is basically teaching his daugther how to use men, and his son is conflicted as he sees his sister get everything while his father acts as if I am a rug.
I don't want to argue with him, but I guess I want to know if I have lost my mind. Should I jump ship and run for a life boat or what I can do to help him understand that this behavior is affecting our relationship and pushing me away. I am uncomfortable whenever she is sitting on him and sprawling on him, as well as when he yells at everyone else (his son, and myself) for trouble she causes. I mean honestly, I am beginning to think that this stuff about her mother is completely made up and the maternal mother is not really even jeaalous at all, but just disciplined and fed out with her daugther's manipulation!
This gonna be the shortest way I can put it... 3yrs ago I met Tim.. We never had problems till last year when he made a baby on me. I never knew he had a girl pregnant until he got ready to leave for basic training. He decided to sit me down and tell me everything, which hurt me so bad because I was pregnant AT THE SAME TIME.. well now both children are 1yrs old. My son b-day is in Aug. and hers is in Sept. Well it hurt me so bad that this whole year me and his baby momma kelp gettin into arguements and we actually faught. I cant stand her! Well In the beginning she wouldnt let him have his daughter unless I wasnt around and I hate that. I would never hurt her and I would love to be apart of her life, but I cant. I cant handle to not be apart of something that means so much to my man. It kills me. Well lately we decided to move and go to school. We decided to get an apartment together and try to make things work but his baby mom kept finding ways to mess our relationship up. She would always call him complaining about silly things. I believe that if she calls it should STRICTLY be about his daughter but it never is half the time. So I got so fed up with it I would lie to my boyfriend and tell him I had met me some friends at school and I would change my bestfriends name in my phone to a guy name to make him jealous. Well he thought I was being serious so he really went out and met him a friend. And he decided that it was best to have a break. Its been a month now and when I walk on on campus and see him with his new friend it makes me so upset! I kno it was my fault but I just wanted to teach him a lesson because he doesnt appreciate the things I do and Im tired of this woman gettin in our relationship. She knows all my business and I want her to DISAPEAR! Well i thought I would let him kno the truth but he didnt want me back. I begged begged begged and cried just to get him back but he ALWAYS said no. So finally I met me a friend and he would see us together or see that he texted in my phone and he would get so mad.. he soon got feed up with it then decided to beg me back. Now the game had turned around. Before I would go back with him I gave him my rules. I told him he would have to leave his friend alone and this time be fully committed but then his answer changed. He didnt know what he wanted. He just dont want me with no one else but him and he doesnt want me messing with no other guy. He just doesnt want to be with me. I dont know what to do because at the moment im fed up and Im bout to just give my new friend a chance.. but b4 I do Im trying to see what he wants.. what should I do??? Please help me.
My fiance's Mom hasn't really done a good job about teaching her kids about cleanliness and hygeine. I don't mean to be mean, but it's true. When I first started dating my fiance he used to go days without brushing his teeth because no one taught him it was important. His Mom's house is also always very dirty, I don't even like staying there when we go to visit.
Recently her daughter (13) came up to visit my fiance and I. She loves to go swimming so I took her. When we were in the changing room she said, "I thought I wouldn't be able to go swimming because I have my period, but my Mom told me that I can because when I go in the water my period will just stop."
I couldn't believe it. I told her it wasn't true but she didn't believe me. So I called her Mom and told her it wasn't true and her Mom was all like, "Oh, I just told her that you can do that if you're swimming at a lake." But that's bull s h i t because she told her daughter that when her daughter asked her if I could take her swimming at a community pool.
So I bought tampons and helped explain to her how to use them and that was that. But that's not the issue. Imagine how upset and embarassed her daughter would have been if she'd gone in the pool and someone saw she was bleeding, or if this happened when she was with her friends. I don't get her Mom. Should I talk to her more about this? It seems so ludicrous to me!!
He USED to be like that with his teeth. He's not anymore!!
Okay, so this might be long but please bear with me, I really need some advice.
My fiance's Mom hasn't really done a good job about teaching her kids about cleanliness and hygeine. I don't mean to be mean, but it's true. When I first started dating my fiance he used to go days without brushing his teeth because no one taught him it was important. His Mom's house is also always very dirty, I don't even like staying there when we go to visit.
Recently her daughter (13) came up to visit my fiance and I. She loves to go swimming so I took her. When we were in the changing room she said, "I thought I wouldn't be able to go swimming because I have my period, but my Mom told me that I can because when I go in the water my period will just stop."
I couldn't believe it. I told her it wasn't true but she didn't believe me. So I called her Mom and told her it wasn't true and her Mom was all like, "Oh, I just told her that you can do that if you're swimming at a lake." But that's bull s h i t because she told her daughter that when her daughter asked her if I could take her swimming at a community pool.
So I bought tampons and helped explain to her how to use them and that was that. But that's not the issue. Imagine how upset and embarassed her daughter would have been if she'd gone in the pool and someone saw she was bleeding, or if this happened when she was with her friends. I don't get her Mom. Should I talk to her more about this? It seems so ludicrous to me!!
My fiance is clean, I have shown him the right way.
im at the point of serious emotional breakdown. i hate my life. the only real reason I have to live is my beautiful daughter who is my world. im living with her father and his family.im 18. they treat me like shit. i get dirty looks from my sister-in-laws when i walk in the room. they try to act like they like me but anyone can feel when someone doesnt like them. im told what to do .. when i can do it. if i feel like i want to walk up the street just for a walk i have to get permission. if i want to see my mom or anyone from my family i have to get permission and b back before a certain time. my dad lives 15 mins away and i havent seem him in like 2 years. i ask him to come see me n my daughter and he says he doesnt have time. my mom is as depressed as i am... shes 44 and lives alone. i wish i could take away her pain but im only human.my mom and my sisters try to visit me as often as possible but my husbands sister gets a bitchy attitude towards them so they dont even bother that much.i have a nice 300 chrysler hooked up nice... but i was in a car accident 3yrs ago and i got so traumatized i still dont know how to drive. my husband wont teach me to drive he says im gonna go b like a dog in the streets. I get on myspace and try to say hi to my old friends... friends that were once my very close friends... since kindergarten.... they dont respond. not knowing they r one of the only hopes i have left of a social life. i have a lot of money in the bank from the car accident i was in more than 100,000.00 but money truly doesnt bring happiness. i have a cell phone but no one calls me. i went to the state fair this weekend but wasnt happy.... i went with my husband and daughter. i wanted to get on rides but with who??? ive tried to get my self to leave my husband but i would feel so guilty thinking that i took my babies happiness away from her. just the thought of how confused she would be all of a sudden not seeing her daddy everyday. it would kill me. and i feel like i would be choosing my happiness over hers. i couldnt do it. its recently gotten so bad to wear i have suicidal thoughts. i always listen to everybodys problems when they call me... but i never tell mine... ive just always been like that... but no one ever bothers to ask me how I feel. how am I doing. Am I HAppy??? i dont know what to do any more.... i have one sister in law that always is tryin to tell me what to do.... once at one of their family parties she told me to let my daughter down to play and i said no not right now... i dont like her to run around and get lost or hurt and me be somewhere else.so she told me that she wanted to hold her and so i gave her to her. she put her down and let her go get lost. like im not her mother and i have no say or what i say doesnt matter. ive decided to not have more children because we only bring more children to the world every day to suffer. im really sorry that this is so long but this is really the only vent that i have........ please some advice or something.... im having suicidal thoughts and i cant control them... this is a cry out for help.... ask for my myspace if you want it
is it OK to act nice if you're really not?
Here's the deal. I really do not like people, but as my mom taught me, smile and play nice. I am pretty sure people see right through this. The fact remains I could care less about people I meet in classes. Don't misunderstand me. I do have love in my heart and do enjoy the company of select individuals. I am a wife, mother, daughter, sister, and aunt. It is the rest of the population I cannot tolerate for extended periods of time.
Perhaps I am having an identity crisis. But the fact still remains, I have to force myself to be nice and make polite conversation. I know strangers think I am weird, but that is because it feels weird to me to be nice. Whether it is toward my sister in law, mother in law, cousins, professors, classmates... who ever. The only ones I am geniunly nice and sweet towards are my husband and son. Even to my parents and brothers I can be a real b!tch when properly torqued.
So, my question is to ALL who can answer...Is it OK to be a b!tch 24/7 ? Or must I "play nice" as my mother always taught? (even though people can see it is not "natural").
Ia��m a single mom my daughter will be 3 years old around this coming X-mas, how can I teach her to chew her food please? She wona��t do it when I ask her to, sometimes I say chew it please before I put the spoon in her mouth she will but after she shallow the food and pretend she was doing it. Ia��m afraid that if shea��s not starting to chew her food now she will be obese in later life, shea��s not over weight now but she will in my opinion. She wona��t eat meat or anything that looks big I have to blend cereal with fruits or chop veggies or everything else for her to eat it. Please help!
Merci Beaucoup mes amis!
she is around 3 to 4 month and she doesn't look pregnant cause she is skinny i gave her 2 bottle of prenatal vitamin so she can start drinking it she is happy and she gonna have the baby also i think she the only daughter and when her mom found out she got mad at her but now she sort off happy.
it frustrating cause i have been trying to conceive for over 19 month and nothing but im happy we get to share a new experience for our family friend and teach everything i know about baby's not only im am expert on taking care kids am also know a lot of stuff about babies.
what do u guys think of this?
Okay, this is actually my Mom's question about my little sister, but it's annoying me, too. So, I'd like your answer as well. Here's the stats below. Thanks for your help. Greatly appreciate your time.
"My 19yr old daughter has been dating her 19yr old boyfriend for a year. When they started dating he didn't even have a driver's license due to his mother not wanting to pay the extra insurance. Therefore he did not have a job, so no license=no job=no car=no job and so on. He comes from a family of 4 boys whose mom has been married 5 times. He himself says he wants to break free of his mother's way of life, multiple marriages, poverty etc. However he is far from a self starter. My daughter took him for his license, I know she is buying things he need/wants. He is a good kid despite his background. He is saved as is my daughter, he asked my husband to teach him how to work on a car, he treats my daughter well. We had a long conversation with them about what we expect. Our daughter is an honor student, a member of the NHS and had a 4.3 GPA when she graduated and has a job while attending college. He not so much, but he is attending the same college as my daughter. While I don't need him to be the same it worries us that he still has no job nor does it appear, short of filling out applications, that he is interested in getting one and my daughter is enabling him to stay like this. She is unwilling to insist on him getting a job and seems content to "take care of him". She always has excuses and is unwilling to listen when we shoot the excuses down. I reiterate in every other way he is good kid, if he had a job while attending college or showed some sign of not being a sponge I would feel better about their relationship which they have said is headed toward marriage after college. Any advise on how to wake them up would be wonderful. Thanks in advance."
Thanks.
because when my brother was about my age 14 he would start using drugs and he got jumped in to the gang and he would lie about stuff and when i was little about 10 or less i would see him and also i would see how my mom struggled and how he dissapointed her and he didnt even care..like when he was in his 20s he owned his own apartment and stayed clean and lived with his wife and his two kids and i remember once i went to sleep over and he left like at 2 in the morning and is excuse was to use the payphone but now i know he went to use drugs and he left me with his 2 yr old daughter alone in the apartment.. he would also go to our house and beg my aunt or mom for money and once my mom just started crying because of that and she had a picture of im and put it next to the virgin mary and one day he told me that hes going to change and got his picture and moved from the virgin mary and he did change now hes about 25 and owns an apartment with his wife and 2 kids he is a great bro by the way.... im looking for a book that talks about everday struggle like harsh times that teach you about life like for exaple gangsters or money trouble when you have to sacrifice stuff you love,, you know what i mean right well if you know any good ones plz tell me best answer 10 points...
My daughter is 7 years old and she has a horrible attitude. We have had a lot of trouble with her over the past few years with her behaivior and with school. Nothing major like getting kicked out but she was diagnosed with adhd and is very impulsive and extremely insensitive to others.
Anywho, Im not looking for advice on her adhd...just giving a little history!!
We cannot understand why she seems so hearless and cruel sometimes. We really go out of our way to reward her for good behaivior and we are very stern and consistent with our discipline. She is just so unappriciative for everything. She has a habbit of breaking things and everytime we give her consequences, it does not seem to phase her. She broke the entenna off of her boom box we got her, not even a year and she broke her nintendo ds in half, and just a few months after xmas last year, she broke almost every piece of furniture in her 5 foot tall gorgeous doll house that santa got her. I would like to blame it on us spoiling her but honestly all of these things are things she has gotten on her b-day or holidays. We do not reward her with toys. When she does well in school or on a test or has good behaivior we will take her to the book store for a book or a new board game, something educational or stimulating. We moved into our new home over a year ago and painted every room except hers so my husband and i took her to pick 3 colors over the weekend and painted her room for her and she didnt even thank us. In fact she was being really snooty in the evening and I asked her how she can act like that after what we worked on all day for her.....her response was "what did you do for me?"...I was shocked and honestly she just crawls beneath my skin sometimes and I feel horrible to say this but I am almost repulsed just to even have her in my sight at times. I am ashamed to say but i do not understand where I went wrong. Maybe I am too hard on her, expect too much?!?
Our son who is 2 years younger is the complete opposite and she is starting to have an effect on him in a very negative way.
What can we do to make her appriciate things more and take care of things and have pride in her stuff? and most importantly teach her how to show appriciation...even when she says thank you, she wont even look at you!!
We do not know where she gets this from. The only thing we can come up with is that my mother plays a big role in everything. She has a soft spot for our daughter and I swear when she spends the night at my moms and comes home....she acts like freaking royalty and expects us to cater to her.
Im just looking for some sincere hearfelt advice here. I dont want to do wrong by her but I know my disgust for her actions are going to become too much too handle and I dont want to hurt her. I really feel for her, she is a beautiful girl and has a good heart in there she just has a hard time showing it!!
thanks for reading!
I also wanted to mention...we are very family oriented and spend a lot of time with our children playing games, sports, movies...in fact our kids wouldnt know how to entertain themselves if we decided to be lazy one day!!
My Daughter her Mom and myself all have A- blood. Years ago in school we were taught neg. plus neg equals a positive? Is this possible?
Don't know what to do anymore
we put her in her enclosure, lots of room to run around and play, it has plenty of shade, the floor is covered in cement, and there is a round big enough circle full of dirt, if she wants to dig, well when she doesn't want to be in there, she jumps the 6feet high wood fence, but she jumps it and gets into my neighbors yard, and my mom gets all worried cause my neighbor has a very young daughter, and then we put her tied up outside of the enclosure inside of the yard, we tie her up, cause the rest of the fence is only 5feet high hurricane fence, and she easily can climb that as well, my dad had to put her, inside the enclosure cause he got really mad, cause she dug up a big hole under the fence, and under the cement we put at the bottom at the fence, he didn't get mad cause of the hole he got mad, cause she is a female, not spayed, and he got mad cause a male dog could of easily gotten in to in-pregnant her, though that's not a problem at the moment cause she isn't in heat, we clean her enclosure every 3 days, give her cool water every day. feed her twice a day, i normally cant walk her, cause she over powers me, she already drag me twice, and i scraped up all my leg, and i told my dad if he walks her i would pay him he said no, so i told my mom i was gonna hire someone to walk her, she got mad, and said my dad would do it, yet he doesn't do it, i let her loose in the yard every day, we have a semi big yard, i throw the ball around for her, and let the other two dogs loose so that they can wrestle with each other, am in the process of getting all three dogs, a dog house, well three dog houses, one for each dog, when there is a big rain storm we let them inside thee out room we have in the back yard where we keep the lawn mower, big enough for her, and the other two dogs, we also put them in the garage, it isn't an enclosed garage, its a garage, with 6feet high wood fence around it, and no way out, not by jumping the fence, or digging cause everywhere its surrounded by cement
was wondering what else i can do ?
i have a second enclosure, but its all dirt, and i don't like keeping her in there, though she likes it in there, but am actually in the processes of putting both pit bulls in the dirt filled enclosure and put my third smaller dog in the cement filled enclosure, seeing as she likes being inside the dirt filled enclosure, was wondering, what i can do, to make her happy, do i buy her toys, scatter treats everywhere, even though the enclosure its filled with dirt, and not cement, and am gonna see about getting a dog walker, or having my mom talk to my dad about walking her, i am perfectly fine to walk the two smaller dogs, together, cause, there easier to handle, but my pit bull is around 65 to 70lbs, and i tried teaching her how to heel, but she wont learn, my cousin wants her, but i don't trust him at all, he had a rotty female and a male pit bull and all of a sudden both of them were gone from his house, and i am not trustworthy of other people around my dogs,
she use to be an indoor dog, when my mother would tolerate it, then she got sick with mainge, we put her outdoors, gave her her bath treatment, she got better, then she would go into heat, and her period, and my mom hates my indoor dog as it is cause she goes into heat, i dont breed my dogs at all, the pitbull did get pregnant once a couple of months ago, cause another dog tore thru our fence to get at her, she got really sick on me, and my mom didnt want her to have an obortion, she had the puppies, got sick, we took her to the vet, got better, now we are trying to find a better dog food for her, and the other pitbull mix, and they have to be put back on the pill capstar its 100dollars totall for all three dogs, so gonna see about putting together some money to get them the pills, cause the vet assitant did a mistake, and cause of her am not allowed to do payments anymore, and i have no savings, or checking account, or credit cards, she isnt allowed indoors am in south texas
am in south texas so its warm down here, even now in october its pretty warm down here, dont know why, its usually cold down here by october but its warm and fresh down here
another thing, am on a disability check i dont have the money to hire a private trainer, and i know how to train my dogs, she knows basic commands, sit, stay, come, down, up, and shake paws, i tried teaching her how to heel, and she is very stubborn i bought that muzzle collar, that goes around her muzzle and it works for a lil while, then she stops and tries to take it off, dont be telling me to hire a trainer, am hispanic, on a disability check, cant go out and get a job, cause the government will take away my medicaid, i cant afford to have them take it away cause am a diabetic and my medicine cost a lot of money, i will hire someone to walk her for me, but thats cheap, its like 5dollars every day, i use to take her for walks when she was younger then 1yr old, she weighed back then 59lbs, right now all my money is going towards her better food, and tick and flea poison for her the other two dogs, and the yard
seems easy for you to tell people to hire a trainer, when your able to, and other people dont have the luxury to hire someone to take care of there dogs behavorial problems,
look i cant let her inside the house, i live wtih my parents, cause i cant afford a place for my own, my mom would allow her to spend the whole day and night indoors when she was 1yr old and younger, but ever since then she wont allow it, and ive told my mom many times that i was going to bring her back inside, but right at the moment, i cant, i have a chihuahua mix thats a bully towards my pitbull, my pitbull wont do anything to her, but my chihuahua mix, bullies her everytime there together, thats why i dont allow them to be together, and yeah its easy to suggest to get her fixed, but am in the process of trying to make money for everything else they need, that i dont know if ill have enough money left over to get her fixed, my vet charges 300dollars to get her fixed, i only get 600dollars a month, my bills, get paid, then i buy a months worth of stuff for the dogs, then i buy a months worth of stuff for myself, whatever money is left, i spend to get the dogs whatever else they need,
thats how she drag me the first time, i was out walking her, and a male dog followed us home, she spotted him and took off running afcourse i held onto her leash cause didnt want her to run away, and i was draged, and yeah am thinking about making a roof on her enclosure on both enclosures out of fence, like the roof of a dog house, trying to see which is the best possible way to make it,
please dont tell me i dont love my dogs, cause am in the process am trying to sale, my digital camera, my ipod, my photo printer, my old clothes, my old comforters, my furniture thats two years old, am in the process of trying to sale everything i own to make money to get her her stuff, and get her spayed, and everything, i know that if someone buys my queen size furniture set, ill have enough money to get the two pitbulls spayed, and get my indoor dog spayed, thats when i talk to as many vets as i can find in my town, to see which one charges less then 300dollars, cause my furniture is going for 950dollars, i paid over 1,300dollars for it, only could afford it cause i paid it in payments trying to sale my stuff, to try to get the dogs what they need
My MIL is horrible, and I'm sure some of you can relate. She is always throwing daggers and comparing my DD (her only grandchild) to her grandnieces and nephews - and never positively. My questions are more bizarre, however. Last time we visited, she was next to my DD outside in the grass and her little dog was rolling in something a few feet away. I went over to see what the dog was rolling in and it was a pile of dead mice. I told my MIL and she said her cats were doing their job and called the dog over to her and my DD. Then she grabbed my DD's hand and started rubbing it all over the side where the dog just rolled in dead mice saying, "here, pet the dog." I was shocked and exclaimed "the dog was just rolling in dead mice!" but my MIL didn't stop, so I called the dog over and she went and rolled again! After a minute or so, my MIL called her over again and did the same thing, rubbing my daughters hand roughly all over the side where the dog had just rolled! So I just went over and picked my DD up and took her inside and washed her hands while my MIL stared at us. I am so disturbed by this that I'm afraid to leave my DD along with her. What in the world would you do/say if your MIL did this? I asked my DH about it and he just said his mom was crazy.
The second situation I'd really like advice about re: my MIL happened yesterday. She called and halfway thru the conversation she told me that my DH's sister can't wait to teach my daughter swear words. His sister is 28 y/o. What do I do?
To give you a little more background on my MIL: she admittedly tried to ruin our wedding, tells horrible lies about me to her friends and family and turns every celebration into a huge drama fest about how she was mistreated by my husband or me somehow. My DH's father (her DH) died suddenly last winter and everyone is grieving.
The last situation I'd really like advice/support/your stories on happened yesterday when she called. She was angry about our DD's first birthday party because we didn't include my DH's sisters on the Evite. This is true - we didn't include them because they are going to school and living out of state - but we had already told them about the party and said we didn't want them to feel obligated to fly here for the birthday party and they totally understood. Anyway, I explained this and my MIL went into a tirade about how we mistreat her and ignore her grieving. Then she said that she hoped that someone close to us like my DD would die because then we would feel guilty for all the pain my DH and I have put her through. When she said that to me I was so livid and told her it was a horrible thing to say and did she really think that seeing us lose our child would make her feel better? Not to mention that my DH DID lose someone close to him - his father.
Sorry for the long request, I'm just really hoping for some support or advice. The mice incident still makes me sick to my stomach and I can barely think about the awful things she said yesterday.
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Background: In April of '05, I started dating a girl who was pregnant. The "sperm donor" was some deadbeat who refused to even acknowledge it was him. I guess he got her pregnant while she was in college in California. (we met and live in Wisconsin) In hindsight, who knows? Maybe she didn't even know who the "father" was. So, when it was made clear to me that neither this guy or anyone else was going to be a good dad, and since, at the time I loved the mom... I went to the hospital the day she was born and all that... signed the birth certificate as the father. This is only important because it explains why I have hardly any rights as of now.... Now we got divorced this year, and all the above came out in the custody hearings. She got full legal custody because technically i'm not the father. ( even though i'm "dad", and always will be to my little 4 year old girl ). This probably doesn't make too much sense, but anyway, I have visitation which is typical of the father and all that... but not much legal rights to make decisions about life.. schools,, etc...
Ok.. so I'm not the jealous type and I'm happy as I can be in my situation.. I'm glad the ex is doing great and I could really care less about who she dates... UNLESS.... it affects my daughter. Well I called the daycare one day to see if my daughter was there and they said "the boyfriend" had picked her up. And thus my investigation starts... About five minutes on facebook and google and I find out hes a registered sex offender. THis is the charge he was convicted of in 2004 "Use of a Computer to Facilitate a Child Sex Crime ".
I'll just leave it at that to keep it from getting any longer. But again.. My intention is not really to screw the guy over or whatever.. I just don't like the thought of my daughter being around him. What are some things to watch out for? Even before I knew who he was I have been teaching about not letting people touch you or see you naked and that type of thing..shes only 4 so ... anyway..
***So, what can I do? Are there any guidelines that keep them away from kids? Keep in mind I don't have "Parental" rights the same as a normal guy would. Can these guys go near schools and daycares and stuff? General thoughts...?***
Edit: Some clarification, if needed. He is just a boyfriend and has no parental rights or ever will. No I don't pay child support.. the court actually wouldn't let me pay.. I tried. I have no parental or legal rights. They said she could even remove my name from the birth certificate. And yes, I believe she knows hes a sex offender.
Now, before I get attacked, I AM a working mom! The reason I'm asking is because I've been thinking about the difference between the amount of time my mom spent with me and the time I spend with my daughter, and it's barely comparable. She is at a sitter's all day, then I bring her home, feed her, and am so exhausted that I normally just do the dishes and crash on the couch and watch her play or read her a book until she goes to bed. On the contrary, my mom used to spend all day with me, teaching me to read, count, write, etc before I ever got to school (my grade 1 teacher skipped me ahead because my mom had taught me everything in the curriculum by the time I was 4).
Now, I know that today this is necessary because inflation has increased much more quickly than salaries have, so it's really hard to make a living with only one parent working. I am planning to start a day home when we have our second child, because we figured out that with the amount that we would be paying to have our kids in day care, I would only need to take on 3 kids to make up my salary.
So, in your opinion, do working moms contribute to the breakdown of society? I know it's more complicated than that, but how much of a factor is it?
ProfessorC - if you really must know, right now, I am in a management profession where I work at least 45-50 hours per week, sometimes more. I get up at 4:30am and go until 6:00pm. No, I don't think that being at home is going to be "easier" in any way, but if I am working as hard as I am outside of the home, I might as well spend that time at home "working" with my kids and other children. Believe me, if you did what I did outside of the home, you would probably find it easier to stay at home with some kids. And, no, there wouldn't be "vegging" on the couch. I would never be able to do that -- the day would take forever to go by, just like it used to when I worked in a really slow office! Not that it's any of your business, but I already have a plan similar to a kindergarten class.
Please. Listen to my story. I doubt you have ever heard one like it. Try to think of me as you would your own daughter, or sister, niece, or friend.. But, honestly.. you don't have to read my sob story.. it honestly is a bunch of excuses.. but I guarantee to you.. you will never think of life the same.. You could skip through to the bottom of this question.. and honestly, If you do, I don't care what you think of me.. A friend, an enemy, a daughter, a complete stranger.. Just remember I'm a person. I'm a reall life person. My name is Marissa. I'm a human being that loves with such a passion, because she has lost more than you will ever begin to understand. She's a fifteen year old girl who hid in the corner of her room on the top floor of her house in Johnson County, Kansas, while she watched silently as her perfect "johnson county" life fell apart. Her world crumbled beneath her feet. She has taken every beating, every bruise, every cut.. because she's got nothing else. She's just fifteen. I am JUST fifteen... And the emotions I have lived with, the terrors God has put me through, they have made me into an invididual who had everything.. and was finally pushed over the edge by her own brother, he was fifteen. I was only thirteen. I had my life threatened by my own blood relative. In front of my own mother, who was too scared and powerless to do anything to help her own daughter. I had my life threatened in front of my own 7 year old brother, who had to watch in horror as his big sister was beaten by closed fists, as she was thrown across the rooms of her house, stabbed at with an acctual knife, and burned by burning money.. all by her own family members.. mainly by her own older brother...
But I'm not blaming him..It wasn't his fault.
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THIS IS THE BEGINNING OF MY STORY.. IF YOU DON'T WANT TO SPEND THE TIME READING MY STORY, IT IS SUMMARIZED IN THE QUESTION AT THE BOTTOM....
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We were just little kids.. trying to make it through this crazy little thing called life.. Me and my older brother, (Jake) never had the best lives.. What I will call "Daddy #1" (birthdad, nick) was addicted to many subsatnces, including crack, heroin, and meth. And who i will refer to as "Daddy #2" (stepdad, who eventually adopted jake and myself to become our legal "Dad", Tom-also, birthdad to my younger half-brother, TJ) Was bipolar, extremely Depressed, and within his time as my "Dad" our family watched as cancer took two of my amazing grandmas. The first to go was my mom's mother. She was such a powerful individual. She cared for Jake and I when Nick (Daddy #1) Left the family for the Crack business. Later, within the same month, cancer took Tom (Daddy #2)'s mother. I called her "Grandma Trudy" Honestly, she was the only thing in Daddy #2's life that kept him sane. With her gone, He went wild. spending all the family's money, and taking his physical rage out on Jake and I. I was eight at the time. He beat us sh!tless. (sorry for my language, but it was the lightest way to put it while coming close to what happened.) Daddy #2 burned money infront of my face. A Twenty Dollar Bill. He was wearing his blue flannel shirt. Me, My favorite pink sundress. Jake, a chiefs jersey. I could tell you every detail of that day. He was yelling at us for wasting money. Then, being all high and mighty, as always, he decided to teach us a lesson in finace while teaching english, by using metaphors to punish us. He pulled out his money clip. then, got a twenty dollar bill out of the clip. Then took his lighter, and lit the money on fire, waving it 2cm in front of my face. While screaming at Jake and I for being wasteful. I remember him saying "next time you feel like wasting money.. why don't you just let me burn it for you? Because this is what you're doing. You're wasting our family's money. You're burning our money." All I had done was not finished my dinner, because I had a stomach ache from eating too much. My mom cried in the other room, while I cried with the fire so close to my face, I was sweating. Finally, about 11 months later, around the time his mom had died, He left my family.. with no money, a newly single mother, to support a family of four on a teacher's sallary. She raised My younger brother, TJ (4 at the time of Tom's departure.), My older brother, Jake (10 years old at the time,) and Myself, Marissa (8 at the time). She raised us all to the best of her ability, trying to undo all that Tom had taugh us about life.. But sadly enough, for Jake and Myself, statistics show that whatever a child lives with until he/she in 6 becomes normal behavior for the child. For Myself, this meant I thought being hit, and screamed at, was normal. I had no friends, because everyone was scared of my dad. I seriously thought it was normal. It didnt seem fair.. but I knew nothing
Silly Family
A silly family moved from one village to another. That family takes idiomatic expressions literally. The members of that family are Lisa, the mom; Frank, the dad; Grace, the grandma; Michelle, the daughter; and John, the son. One day a man tried to make friends with the silly family. After 30 minutes the man said a�?I should go home now ita��s raining cats and dogs (raining hard)a�? a�?Dona��t worry cats and dogs, wea��ll save youa�? the family shouted. The dad gets a trampoline and the five went outside. They didna��t find any cats and dogs. a�?They all dieda�? the five said sadly. The next morning, a woman knocked on their door asking if she can borrow a puncher. Frank, the dad, punched her face. The woman told about it to her husband and he got angry. Later on, the husband went to the dada��s house and said angrily a�?Ia��m very hot under the collar (very angry), youa��ll be punished for what you did to my wife and youa��ll face the music (be punished)a�? The dad gets ten candles, a collar, and a radio. The dad lights the ten candles and he places them around near the husband. He places the collar above his head. a�?Ia��m making you hot under the collara�? Frank said. He turns on the radio and he puts his face on the radio. a�?Ia��m doing the punishmenta�? Frank said. a�?Youa��re born yesterday (fooled easily)a�? the husband shouted angrily. a�?Wow! I am? Really? Thata��s very amazing! I grew very fasta�? the dad said in surprise. a�?Just pay me a��2,000 or else Ia��ll tell to the police about what you did to my wifea�? the husband shouted angrily. The dad paid him a��2,000. One day a woman made friends with Lisa. The woman said a�?Madonna is so popular that she set the world on fire (to be very famous)a�?. a�?Thata��s impossible to happen and so shea��s a devil wea��re not on earth, are we? Are we in heaven?a�? Lisa said in surprise. a�?Youa��re stupida�? the woman said and left. The next day, a man made friends with Lisa. The man interviewed her. He asked her this question a�?What do you plan to do in the future?a�? The man was shocked to hear her answer. a�?I plan to go to the sun and live therea�? Lisa answered. a�?Youa��re dumb and youa��re crying for the moon (to hope for something impossible)a�? the man said. Lisa cried and said a�?Moon! Moon!a�?. One day a boy fell in love with Michelle the daughter. He said to Michelle a�?Youa��re very pretty, youa��re the apple of my eye (favourite)a�?. a�?Really, Ia��m a beautiful apple in your eye. Please let me out! And how did I get in here?a�? Michelle said. a�?Ia��ll look for another girlfrienda�? the boy said. One day Grace, the grandma, went outside, then she overheard a neighbour say this a�?The people living in this house (the neighbour is pointing at the silly familya��s house) are a thorn in the flesh (annoying) because theya��re very stupida�? Grace was very surprised when she heard that. a�?Really, wea��re stupid thorns that are half thorn half human and we live in a house and we go to other peoplea��s skin to hurt thema�? Grace said in surprise. a�?Youa��re really very stupida�? the neighbour said. One day it is John the sona��s birthday. One of his friends greeted him Happy Birthday and gave him a present. The gift is a green shirt with an ugly design. a�?I hate green, this shirt is very uglya�? said John. a�?You look a gift horse in the mouth (to criticize something given to you)a�? the friend said. a�?Dona��t talk nonsense! How can a horse fit in your mouth? And you did not give me a horse, you gave me an ugly shirta�? John said annoyingly. One day John went outside to throw papers at a tree. A neighbour saw him and said to the boy a�?Youa��re chasing butterflies (to waste time in worthless activities)a�?. a�?Ia��m not chasing butterflies, Ia��m throwing papers at a tree and I dona��t see any butterflies arounda�? John said. One day Grace the grandma overheard a woman say this to her son. a�?Break a leg (good luck) in the dancing contest and try to bring home the bacon (to win in the contest). a�?Dona��t teach your son to do bad things he will be punished for that and why is a bacon the reward for the winner?a�? Grace said. a�?Youa��re dumba�? the son and her mother said and laughed. One day, Michelle heard the president of their village said this a�?Some people who are chosen by the people here to become Vice President or Treasurer of this village are not doing their job, we should separate the sheep from the goats (to distinguish the good and responsible members of a group from the bad or lazy members)a�?. a�?So those people are sheeps and goats? Amazing!a�? Michelle said. The president laughed at her. One day, Lisa heard a man said this to her wife a�?Ia��m so worried about my son, Ia��ll move heaven and earth (to do everything to make something happen) just to let him walk againa�?. a�?Thata��s impossible to move heaven and earth and that wona��t cure your sona�? Lisa said. The man laughed at her. John heard a woman say this to her son a�?Study hard so when you grow up youa��ll be in a bed of roses (in a comfortable life)a�?. a�?So people who study hard will just lie in a bed of roses, thata��s impossiblea�? J
Okay.. I have seen a whole bunch of posts on yahooanswers that lead me to believe that lots of parents participate in the "never let your baby cry, always hold him, meet his needs instantly, never-ever spank..." parenting. I assumed it was somewhat of a fad but after teaching Kindergarten I realize that I am the one that is in the minority. Most of my kiddos had NO respect for me. They wanted their wants and needs met instantly and threw a fit if they didn't get their way. I realized after being part of this lovely little pregnancy and parenting forum that it is because their moms have been constantly pleasing them from birth on. I do understand the argument that babies are not capable of learning from crying.. and that babies don't understand why you are making them wait for a bottle, etc. Trust me, I have done plenty of research on the topic. But.. when do you stop? When do you say.. enough is enough...? Your children have to be independent... they have to be able to wait patiently when they need something... they have to be able to survive if they don't get their way constantly. People wonder why our world is falling in the cracks... it is because this up and coming generation has been taught that they get their way and that life doesn't go on if they don't. They can't get along with other people in school or in a workplace because they have been taught that their needs come first and that everyone else's can wait.
I love my child with everything that I am. She is my reason. I spend extra money to see to it that she has organic formula and baby food.. as well as organic diapers. She tummy-sleeps because of a medical condition so I have purchased a very pricey motion monitor for her crib at home AND one for her crib at daycare. I would die for my child.. but I do NOT live to please her. She is PART of our family not QUEEN of the family. I am not late to functions because I had to pull over and console her in the car. She can wait until we get there.. unless I know she is in pain of course. If it is time for dinner... I cook. I don't wait until my daughter says that she is happy enough for me to put her down and cook. If she is fed, clean, and just wanting to be held... I put her down and do what needs to be done.. whether she is crying or not. When she is hungry and my husband and I are in the middle of dinner, I do not put my fork down and rush to make her a bottle. I hurry through my meal.. but I don't let her rule the roost. She will not starve in 5 minutes.
Walk into the schools these days.. or go to a local doctor's office and ask them how many of their patients are on meds because of behavioral issues... and you will see that something is wrong. Kids don't have respect... and think they are the center of the universe. 40 years ago.. kids wouldn't have thought of treating their parents the way our kids treat us. But 40 years ago.. the adults ate first... the babies waited for water to boil in order to heat their bottles, moms let their babies cry if something else in the house needed to be done or if another child needed something. Now.. our kids aren't even expected to make it through dinner without entertainment. If you go out... you better believe the Nintendo DS goes with you. If your kid wants to sleep in your room... they do... etc.
Am I the only parent who hasn't bought into this "constantly pleasing your baby" style of parenting...? I know I am going to get plenty of ridicule for this.. but I am honestly curious. Does anyone agree with me...? I want my daughter to grow up to be an independent child that can wait her turn... that is respectful to adults... that can sit through dinner with nothing more than crayons... that will do her homework because it is required not because I give her a treat when she does it... Is that weird..?
Also.. I am aware the bonding issue too... so don't throw that in my face. Many parents think that you need to constantly met your babies needs because they need to bond with you and trust you. I am plenty bonded to my daughter. She lights up when I walk in the room and vice versa. And unless you are beating your child or not feeding him, I find it hard to believe that he will grow up not trusting you. You tuck him in at night, read him a story, and feed him. He trusts you.. even if he isn't king of the house.
First of all, I am not exactly referring to AP.. as AP originally starting out as a baby-wearing trend... which I have nothing against. It has morphed into close to what I described. It's original trend started in the late 80s (and was primarily baby-wearing).. there is no set date on when it morphed into "never crying.. always pleasing... etc". So I find it hard to believe that there are any valid studies that show to outcomes of these children... as the oldest they can possible be is 21.
Also.. I already validated the fact that infants aren't aware of what is going on around them. The question was.. when do you stop...? Or do you look up and your "baby" is 3?
Dandy, his sister, Miranda and their mother, all stood at the station waiting for the bus.
Dandy, walked to his sister and slapped her twice.
" you looked at me, " he said, " i hate those who look at me."
Miranda slapped him back. " And i hate those who slap me," She said, spraying Dandy with spit.
" stop it both of you," The mother yelled, " Dad asked me if you did anything wrong, then i have to write it down and show it to him."
" i don't care about dad," Dandy yelled, " i want to hurt this creature."
He jumped at his sister and started kicking her under her arms, between her feet, and in her face.
But all of a sudden, the girl raised one finger, arched it forward and a long, blue thread encircled the boy and carried him away, to the other side of the street.
" how dare you use magic in the middle of town?" her mother whispered, " If someone sees you then it will the end of our family,"
" he was hitting me mom," the girl got to her feet, " haven't you seen him?"
Their mother pressed her lips and grasped her daughter from her arms and walkd to the other side of the street.
" get to your feet,"
Some men gathered at the other side of the street and started pointing at the girl, their heads tilted towards each other, as if whispering something.
" now you've done it again," Dandy said, breaking free from the rope. " the magic that father has taught you, will bring him trouble, i'll make sure to tell him that you don't deserve those private magic lessons, you bring us trouble Miranda."
Miranda stroked her hand against her jupe, and pointed at a small cat walking at the end of the sidewalk. " it's mercy. She' s here."
The cat grinned at Miranda, twirling her tail around her leg.
Miranda ran at the cat and grasped her from the ground. She started shaking her back and forth. " do you have any news?"
The cat remained silent, her hazel eyes gazing intentently at Miranda.
" What?" Miranda said," The other cat ate your tongue."
" cats don't eat each other's tongue Miranda," Mercy said. Then she turned her head at Dandy.
" Your Dad is dead." Mercy said, her voice nearly a whisper.
Miranda shivered and Mercy fell from her hands. The black cat walked away, peering at Dandy and Mom. She was ready to deceive them.
by the way, it's for ages 9-12.
Dandy, his sister, Miranda and their mother, all stood at the station waiting for the bus.
Dandy, walked to his sister and slapped her twice.
" you looked at me, " he said, " i hate those who look at me."
Miranda slapped him back. " And i hate those who slap me," She said, spraying Dandy with spit.
" stop it both of you," The mother yelled, " Dad asked me if you did anything wrong, then i have to write it down and show it to him."
" i don't care about dad," Dandy yelled, " i want to hurt this creature."
He jumped at his sister and started kicking her under her arms, between her feet, and in her face.
But all of a sudden, the girl raised one finger, arched it forward and a long, blue thread encircled the boy and carried him away, to the other side of the street.
" how dare you use magic in the middle of town?" her mother whispered, " If someone sees you then it will the end of our family,"
" he was hitting me mom," the girl got to her feet, " haven't you seen him?"
Their mother pressed her lips and grasped her daughter from her arms and walkd to the other side of the street.
" get to your feet,"
Some men gathered at the other side of the street and started pointing at the girl, their heads tilted towards each other, as if whispering something.
" now you've done it again," Dandy said, breaking free from the rope. " the magic that father has taught you, will bring him trouble, i'll make sure to tell him that you don't deserve those private magic lessons, you bring us trouble Miranda."
Miranda stroked her hand against her jupe, and pointed at a small cat walking at the end of the sidewalk. " it's mercy. She' s here."
The cat grinned at Miranda, twirling her tail around her leg.
Miranda ran at the cat and grasped her from the ground. She started shaking her back and forth. " do you have any news?"
The cat remained silent, her hazel eyes gazing intentently at Miranda.
" What?" Miranda said," The other cat ate your tongue."
" cats don't eat each other's tongue Miranda," Mercy said. Then she turned her head at Dandy.
" Your Dad is dead." Mercy said, her voice nearly a whisper.
Miranda shivered and Mercy fell from her hands. The black cat walked away, peering at Dandy and Mom. She was ready to deceive them.
by the way, it's for ages 9-12.
OK. This is gonna be a long post.
I have a serious dillemma here, and I honestly don't know what to do, or what to think, or how to feel.
I'm a 29 year old single Mother who is currently living with my Mother.
My Mother and I moved to Ohio after my daughter was born and bought a house here three years ago. We were coming from some pretty hard times, and my Mom sold off her condo in California and we decided to Move and invest our money into a house here. We co own this house.
My Mother and I are extremely close. She is like my best friend in the world, and its almost like a marriage, even. (Not to sound perverse) We are really attached to eachother. We understand eachother perfectly and if it wasn't for her I wouldn't have survived, although she has put me through Hell, she has always been there for me.
The thing is, I take care of her too, and without me, I don't think she would survuve emotionally, physically, and materially.
I I had alot of problems growing up, partly because of My Mom, and I've never really worked and I dropped out of highschool. She had emotional problems and problems with drugs.
I Love her, I've always been there for her and taken care of her, but that's how it was. It affected me, negatively. But it taught me alot too. She's a very fragile person.
She doesn't really have any friends. I have a few close friends.
I have a daighter now, and now that I'm 29, I'm really rethinking my life, and I might want to go back to school. We are poor and both living on a fixed income.
It's always been a dillemma for me, trying to strike out on my own and be my own person and have my own life, but i can't. She could never survive on her own. I feel guilty for having this desire. But is this Normal?
I've tried having men move in with us, and live with us in the past, but the truth is, she's very needy, and no guy really wants to live and deal with the Mother and Law everyday, and truthfully neither do I, especially of she craves constant attention.
I'm dating now. Honestly, I would Love to just go back to school, get a good guy, move out with him, and my daughter, and do what other people do. Have my own life.
Am I wrong???!! Should I feel guilty?? My Mother and I are so close, am I selling her out for some man??
I wish it could just be normal. Like she could have her own place and I could have mine, and I could come see her with my daugher everyday, and call her on the phone, isn't that what other people do?
Between both of our incomes we make it.
But without mine, even if she knew how to balance bills, and save money, would still not be enough even though, she owns this house.
My question is, how do seniors out there make it on their own??
I don't anyone who would live with her, because it's hard for her to get on with people. Honestly I really don't want to do the boyfriend, mother in Law big happy(actually miserable family) thing again. I don't.
I'm happy with her, right now, but i worry about my future, i don't want to end up an old maid. I really want to just my own person, my Mother has been such a huge dominant influence in my life. I also have a tendency to pick abusive men, and I think that's part of the reason why I'm so close to my mom, cuz I've essentially given up on men, she's the closest thing to Love I've ever had, so am I being disloyal here? I don't even think going back to school or getting a job is a real option for me here, cuz I know how she is, and she gets demanding and lonely for my attention all the time.
Also, she helps me alot with my daugher. That's why I feel guilty!!!
She laughs at me and says "they don't care" or "who are they to me?" She lives with her mom, she is a teen, but has it really come to the point where teens don't respect a human being enough to get off the darn phone, and show some general respect? Is she the only one like this? In your opinion, don't you think it is super rude for her to be on the phone chatting at subway while a person is trying to make her sandwich, and she is chatting so much, that she can only nod to let them know what she wants on her sandwich? Or am I making a big deal over it? I pay the bill, so I snached it right out of her hand and put it in my bag. Well her mom calls me that evening asking why I was mentally and verbally abusing her daughter. We pay the $200 blackberry phone bill, the car payment, the insurance, all of it, so I told her to butt out and teach her daughter some manners. She is the same way with waitresses. She treats them like slaves and dirt, and I hate it. What can I do? Nothing? Me and my hubs have been married almost 8 yrs. btw, so I have an established relationship with all of them.
She will be 18 in Jan. Refuses to get a job, has never had one, and my husband AND her mom just let me deal with her, because they don't know how to handle her. I usually can make her do right at least while she is with me, or around me.
Lol Allison, I know its like 56 degrees!!! Finally no A/C on.
Guess what? She is MY responsibility until she turns 18 and yes I am a legal guardian of her, and yes how she turns out as a human being is partly on me. Just because you don't give birth to a child doesn't mean that you are not responsible for them.
I'd normally use a lot of swear words when talking about my father, but Yahoo bleeps them out so you guys would probably get very confused.
I hate my father, I know that's horrible for a daughter to say, but it's true, and I'm not going to deny it.
My dad is always threatening both me and my sister if he doesn't like what we're doing or what we're saying. When we were younger, he would always say "Your butt(swear word) is grass, and my hand is the lawn mower" I think parents have the right to spank their children when they're younger(it's just humiliating when you get old enough) to teach them that they shouldn't do whatever it is that they go in trouble for. But he'd even use that as a joke. And now that me and my sister are older(I'm 16 she's 14) he'll tell us we're grounded for making sexual jokes(or lots of other stuff) along with everyone else. We know he's joking but we're tired of it cause he keeps saying it. And he'll just threaten us. Like one time, we were arguing and I was yelling at him that all he does is try to intimidate or threaten us whenever we try standing up for ourselves. (okay, I did overreact and scream at him and pointed at him and said "just like that" because I knew he was about ready to try and do something.) but he walked over to me and said "If you yell like like again, I swear I'll rip your head off." My mom tried convincing me later that he wasn't going to do anything, but she was all tensed up on the couch yelling "George! Stop it!" over and over again.
Okay, he has a reason to be be stressed because he lost his job about 4 months ago. But our pay ran out last month and now we're having to cut into his retirement funds now because he waited until two months into the pay to start looking for a job!! He "said" that he wouldn't procrastinate and that he'd wait like a week or two. That obviously wasn't the case.
But this isn't a new thing! He's being doing this stuff all my life! I'm sick of it! I don't want to be threatened all the time anymore and told I'm going to be grounded for stupid things and he just says that because he's mad. Like tonight, not eve half an hour ago, he walked RIGHT past the kitchen, and told my sister to make him a bowl of ice cream. I told him "Why don't you make your own bowl? You're down here!" And he looked around the living room and said "'Cause she needs to make a trip to the kitchen anyway." There was a bowl and a plate my sister had from dinner and ice cream. He started walking up the stair and I told him "You should make your own ice cream, you're right here! Honestly, you're so lazy, and you blame US." He told me "Shut up, Susan. If I want any lip from you, I'll ask for it." I don't quite remember what I said then, but it was to the effect of, "Well, you walked right by the kitchen, but asked Mary to get you stupid ice cream!" He walked partially back down the stairs and told me "If you say anything else, you're gonna be in a lot more trouble"
I'm just so tired of this place, even my mom knows he's being mean(swear word, again). Everyone in this house yeilds saying stuff to him just to not piss him off. And he's such a stupid pack-rat!!! He's a computer guy. And he's always bringing home crap! And all he does with this crap is move it from one pile of stuff to another!! Of course, HIS room is clean because he won't put it up there to get in his way, he just leaves it in everyone elses' way.
What can I do about this? I'm so sick of this.. But I'm trapped here for another year and ten months.
(All of the names are fake.) This is only a fraction of what's wrong involving him.
He never wants to admit he's wrong sometimes.... I'm tired of it..
My bf's son lives with us and he is 18 months old, we both consider him mine(the mom is not involved) we have been working on colors and numbers and such with him because my daughter is in pre-school so he wants to do what she does. He has been doing really well. he can count to 35 with out help and he knows all the basic colors. But yesterday my daughter came home with simple math and i was helping her with it and he was doing ok. He knew what 2+2 was! i was amazed. but i dont want to push him. should i keep allowing him to do the same work she is? i am working with my daughter on reading and my bf said to just teach them at the same time but would that be too much? I dont want to push him too far because he is doing so well.Please help me?
wheni say KJ is bringing home "math" i mean the term kind of losely. It has pictures of apples or crayones and shows a picture of 2+ 2 and 1+1 pretty much like that useing the numbers 1-10
Disclaimer: I am a Christian and I have posted these funny saying of kids about the bible. It is only meant for fun not to make fun of anyone. So please just laugh about it. God has a sense of humor too, and He loves Kids.
King of Glory
Six year old Mike was listening to the Messiah one day with his mother. When it got to this part: "He is the King of glory," Mike asked, "Is Glory His wife?"
Palm Sunday
One Palm Sunday, little Joey had a sore throat and had to stay home from church with a sitter. When the rest of the family came home, they were carrying palm branches. Joey asked what they were for. His father told him that people held them over Jesus' head when he walked by.
"Wouldn't you know it!" said Joey. "The one Sunday I miss, Jesus shows up!"
Did Noah Go Fishing?
A Sunday School teacher asked her class if they though Noah did a lot of fishing while he was on the ark.
"Of course not," said one little boy. "How could he? He only had two worms!"
The Children's Sermon
On Easter Sunday, the minister was giving the children's sermon. He reached into a bag and pulled out an egg. He asked the children if they knew what was inside.
"I know," said one boy. "Panty hose!"
The Collection Plate
A little boy was in church for the first time. He watched as the ushers passed around the collection plate. When they got to his pew, he told his father, "Don't pay for me, Daddy. I'm under five."
Prayers
The Sunday School teacher asked, "Now, Bobby, do you say your prayers before you eat?"
"No, sir, we don't have to," Bobby replied. "My mom's a good cook."
Elijah and the Prophets of Baal
A Sunday School teacher told her class about the story of Elijah and the prophets of Baal. The prophets of Baal tried to get their god to send fire to ignite the offering they had put on their altar. Of course, their god couldn't do it. Then Elijah put his offering of a bull on an altar. But before he called on God to ignite it from heaven, he had the people pour water on the bull four times. The teacher asked the class if they knew why Elijah would do that.
A little girl waved her hand excitedly. "I know, I know," she said, "To make the gravy!"
Lot's Wife
A Sunday School teacher was telling the class about how Lot's wife looked back at the city while they were fleeing its destruction, even though God had forbidden her to. She then turned into a pillar of salt.
A little boy interrupted her and said, "My mommy looked back one time while she was driving the car and she turned into a street lamp."
The Good Samaritan
A Sunday School class was learning about the Good Samaritan. To make the story vivid to the children, teacher told the story in detail, describing how the Samaritan was beaten, robbed, then left for dead. Then she asked the class what they would do if they saw someone on the side of the road, beaten and all bloody. A little girl quietly replied, "I think I'd throw up."
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Who's the Higher Power?
A Sunday School teacher was teaching her class about the powerful Kings and Queens of the Old Testament. "But there is a higher power. Does any one know what it is?"
One little boy said, "Sure. Aces."
How Moses Crossed the Red Sea
A mother asked her nine-year-old son what he learned in Sunday School that day. He said the teacher told them how God sent Moses behind enemy lines to rescue the Israelites and lead them out of Egypt. When they got to the Red Sea, the army built a pontoon bridge and everyone walked across safely. Then they saw the Egyptians coming, so Moses radioed for reinforcements. Bombers came and blew up the bridge, so the people were saved.
His mother asked, "Is that really what the teacher said?"
"No," he replied, "but if I told it the way the teacher did, youa��d never believe it."
The Lord is My Shepherd
A Sunday School teacher decided to teach her young class the 23 rd Psalm. After church, a mother asked her daughter what she learned that day in class. The little girl replied, "The Lord is my shepherd and that's all I need to know!"
Be Not Afraid
After church one day, a mother asked her daughter what the Sunday School lesson was about. The daughter replied, "Dona��t' be scared, you'll get your quilt." The mother was perplexed and couldn't figure out what her daughter could be referring to. So she called the teacher and asked her what the lesson was. The teacher said, "Be not afraid, your Comforter will come."
Jesus' Father's Name
A Sunday school teacher asked her class, "What was Jesus' mother's name?"
They all knew. "Mary," they answered in unison.
The teacher then asked, "Does anyone know what Jesus' father's name was?"
A little kid shot up his hand and said, "Verge."
The teacher asked, "Where did you get that?"
The little kid said, "You know, Verge n' Mary.
Today I was talking to my mom and she brought up a topic that REALLY, REALLY bothers me. My husband is not the same nationality as my family and myself. He is Caucasian and Christian like us, and where his family comes from is only a country away from where my family roots are from. Ever since I began dating him (it's been more then ten years) my parents have told me what a great guy he is, he comes from a great family... but they tell me how hard it will be to raise kids with two different cultures... plus teaching them English (we live in Canada). We've discussed this one too many times in the past 10 years, and yesterday she brought it up again. Saying how when our daughter is born (only a little bit longer!) we'll start to notice that there are all kinds of cultural differences that we'll raise her in. I don't see the problem. We will visit his family, and mine equally. We will baptize her in the church I grew up in (the mass will be English, his language and mine)...same with all the other Christian events. I think it's great submerging kids with different cultures from a young age. We will teach her both languages, not expect her to speak fluently of course... but make sure she knows the basics + a little bit more of each. On top of that my husband has two jobs (a family business, and a company he started himself 3 years ago). He scheduled so many appointments and everything today one after another that he hasn't been home all day. I feel lonely and depressed, and I'm sure it's because of the pregnancy. Do you moms think it's because of the pregnancy that I'm so moody and crying all day? Do you think I have a right to be offended by what my mom said...what are your opinions on this? Thanks, hope I didn't bore you guys...
I don't really like talking about myself, but I've been kinda worried.
At school I don't take any honors classes, and I'm only like in the average math class. am i stupid?. people have said that i'm smart, and I do care about school, but my mom kinda um "stalks" my grades because they are posted on a website, and before i even get home she KNOWS if i was tardy like 30 seconds after the bell rang or other stuff and screams at me in the "scary asian voice" lol(i swear it's like this insane power asians have, this blood freezing scary voice. lol i'm not being racist, heck, i am half asian : ] ) and says i'll never go to a university or college or stuff. i mean i luv my mom because it's true that most parents sacrifice a lot to raise us, but i feel like i'm a horrible daughter. i do try hard at school, like sometimes 3 nights a week i stay up till midnight or 2 in the morning to do good on a project, but i have...i don't really wanna admit it but i have like i think 3 As, 2 Bs and a C that used to be an F.
i know i will never succeed in life lol
when i hear people say a B is horrible and that they would kill themselves if they ever got a B-, well....lol i think they weren't serious, but ...darn my keyeboard doesn't type well all the keys are like stuck...
yeah anyway, i know, all our lives we're taught that grades are important, and I'm not saying they aren't. but we just completely judge ourselves and others so harshly on things that, honestly won't matter in the end. i mean, is God gonna care how many A's we got? No! God loves us no matter what, and material things like if u know the square route of pie doesn't make u a better person. it's what's in ur heart that RREALLY matters, not some percentage on ur history paper. yes i like school and i REALLY want good grades, but...it kinda sickens me how Godless a nation we have become. we idiolze stupid things like appearance and grades that really don't give u character. don't get me wrong, i luv smartness and all that, but is it really something that we shoud comletely freak over? i'm not a bad student, i really want to be a wwriter, like do or die(is that even an expresion? : ] ). at my school they have a writing profiency test that's like this huge deal we prepare for for like...i forget how long... but anyway we have to write a 5 paragraph essay with a whole bunch of other stuff like the planning the parahraphs and outlines whic takes like the whole day. i got a 5 which isthe highest grade u can get and only 8 other people got it out of 280 students, and my mom thinks i'm not able to be in honors and...she's nice kinda and all but i'm just wondering how to...i dunno i really honestly have no idea where i'm going with this but i....am really tired and i'm going to bed... : ] thank God it's Friday
What is the best behavior for a father to teach his language to his daughter without making it boring to her?
We live in the US and I am Italian. Of course her mom (American) spends the most time with her teaching her English and reading books. I do what I can during the week-ends and at night while we play with blocks on the carpet.
I speak 24/7 Italian with her and my wife is trying to repeat with her the 5/6 Italian words my daughter picked up to keep practicing.
Of course 2 years old is a little early to pretend some results but I was wondering how other people do..
hey guys ok so i just started 7th grade and since 5th grade i have had a best friend, rebecca. This year a new girl, sarah, came in and me and rebecca became instant friends with her. The problem is i'm feeling a little 3rd wheelish because i live in a different town than them (my mom has been teaching in the school district for 18 years so i go there for free) rebecca and sarah are neighbors, and they horesback ride together. I don't know what to do because all the time they talk about horseback riding (i do soccer, lacrosse, feild hockey, NEVER horesback) and they hang out everyday, even if it's just to do homework. I'm scared their friendship will start being stronger than ours, and it's not that i don't like sarah shes my friend but they are always saying inside jokes together, sleepovers every weekend, REBECCAS MOM STARTED CALLING SARAH HER 4RTH DAUGHTER WHEN SHE'S BEEN HERE FOR 4 WEEKS!!! what do i do? i always feel left out
hey guys ok so i just started 7th grade and since 5th grade i have had a best friend, rebecca. This year a new girl, sarah, came in and me and rebecca became instant friends with her. The problem is i'm feeling a little 3rd wheelish because i live in a different town than them (my mom has been teaching in the school district for 18 years so i go there for free) rebecca and sarah are neighbors, and they horesback ride together. I don't know what to do because all the time they talk about horseback riding (i do soccer, lacrosse, feild hockey, NEVER horesback) and they hang out everyday, even if it's just to do homework. I'm scared their friendship will start being stronger than ours, and it's not that i don't like sarah shes my friend but they are always saying inside jokes together, sleepovers every weekend, REBECCAS MOM STARTED CALLING SARAH HER 4RTH DAUGHTER WHEN SHE'S BEEN HERE FOR 4 WEEKS!!! what do i do? i always feel left out
From the age of 1 to 9 both my parents were drug addicts..my parents divorced when I was 7 and my dad took me. My dad got off the drugs so he could take care of me when I was 9..my mom never got off the drugs. My dad allowed me to see her still and she would take me with her to her friends house's and I would sit in there living room while she was in the bedroom with them for hours doing drugs..she came around only once in a while after that..I'm now 18 and she's still on drugs..I'm in college now and I miss her dearly..I've told her before I can't have a relationship with her unless she gets off the drugs n she says she doesn't do drugs.a few months ago I told her I was raped by one of her family members and she called me a lier and started calling me a drug addict(I've never tried drugs before). She's now married to some drug addict and has a step daughter my age and takes care of them but she won't take care of me...so my question is..is it time to stop hoping and praying that she will be a mom to me one day and that she'll get off the drugs? Because I honestly feel like I've never had a mom there for me before to help me grow up and teach me about girl stuff..my dad had to be a mom to me and raise me into a responsible girl..please give me your honest opinions.
Running, yeah right!!!
Dear Diary,
Today is, well, gloomy, and wet outside, all of my friends are on vacation for Spring Break, but I am stuck here, in Lakeland, Nebraska! How fair is that? My brother, Matt, just came back from his first semester at college, he loved it, and dona��t worry he is going back after break!!! Me??? Well, 7th grade is goinga�� GREAT!!! I couldna��t be happier! Okay, I was lying, could you tell? The teachers are really mean and strict, especially Miss Briges, boy is she a nightmare! The classes feel extra long everyday, and I dona��t have any of my friends in all of the seven classes I have! Man, Stone Middle School is not starting out sooo good. I can only tell you a few things about myself and the rest youa��ll find out latera�� I have a best friend, Hope, a crush named Robbie King, and hand that doesna��t want to STOP WRITING, in this diary. Plus, in every school, (like you see in the movies) there are mean girls and they will choose the people they want in there group and who they dona��t, that is just ridiculous if you ask me, so as you can tell I really dona��t like them!
Well, bye for now, 4/3/09
Anna
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a�?Honey, time to get up, you have a soccer game,a�? yelled Annaa��s mom, Helen!
a�?Okay, but can we stop for ice cream on the way back, without Sam, please,a�? begged Anna. Sam, was Annaa��s step dad, she wasna��t very fond of him, but she let her mom get married to him because he makes her happy. Can you believe my luck?
a�?No, he is coming because he is part of our family now, so you have to learn to get used to that, Anna,a�? stated Helen.
a�?Ughhhhhhhhh, youa��re ruining my life,a�? screamed Anna!
a�? Dona��t be so dramatic, now come down and eat breakfast.
a�?Fine, but Ia��m not talking to you, or Samantha!a�?
a�? That was not funny, he has nothing to do with this, and if there is one thing I have taught you it is to never take your anger out on somebody who didna��t do anything! Come down here and apologize, NOW!a�?
a�?Ugh, could my life get any worse!a�?
a�?Come on, honey, kick the ball into the net, and get a goal,a�? cheered Helen!
a�?Sheesh, why god, why does she have to do that,a�? prayed Anna, as she dribbled the soccer ball in between her feet, and down the field.
a�?GOAL!!! Yesa�� Thata��s my girl, yep, this is great, look everyone the girl who just made that amazing goal is my daughter, cried Helen.
Suddenly, something happened that Anna, didna��t really have in minda�� Robbie smiled at her, and started laughing, and to Annaa��s surprise, she started laughing too!
a�?Anna, Anna, Anna, Anna, come on everybody, Anna,a�? screamed Robbie, getting the entire audience to cheer for me! Me, can you believe it?!?!
a�?I raised my arms and held them high in the air, yeah, victory,a�? hollered Anna, over the crowd! Thank you, Anna mouthed to Robbie.
a�?Anytime,a�? he mouthed back.
a�?Honey, I am so proud of you, I knew you could do it, now how about that ice cream,a�? laughed Helen
a�? Um, another time, mom, I need to get on AIM at home, and talk to, Hope, if shea��s on, and maybe text a little,a�? replied Anna.
a�?Oh, okay, maybe another time, I just wanted you to know how proud I am of you,a�? Helen blubbered.
a�?Sorry, mom, wea��ll definitely do it another time,a�? Anna assured Helen.
LOvelygirl21: Major news, Hope, we need to talk
Girlygirl93: hey, what is it???
LOvelygirl21: Robbie smiled at me!!!
Girlygirl93: OMG!!! Tell me everything, dona��t leave anything out!
LOvelygirl21: Well, I had just made a huge goal, and won my soccer game and my mom started a break down again saying how proud she was and stuff. Then, he and I started laughing and he got the whole audience cheering for me!
Girlygirl93: WOW, you should talk to him, or text him! Do something
LOvelygirl21: okay, Ia��m on it! THX
Girlygirl93: Anytime, I mean what r friends for! Uma�� I need to talk to you too, though. LOvelygirl21 has signed off
Anna pulled her cell phone out of her left pocket, and scrolled down to, Robbiea��s name, on her contacts. She quickly pressed his name and a box came up, his name on the topa��
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Robbie:
Hey, um, I just wanted to say, thx, again for distracting
everyone from my moma��s mental break down! lol
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Anna waiteda�� and waiteda�� and waited some more, until finallya�� BUZZ, BUZZ.
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Anna:
Hey, and its cool, I just felt bad cause, ya know, my
mom doesna��t do that in front of everybody!
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Ive seen moms get to carried away with beauty pageants, and im worried that what if it does have a more negitavie effect on my daughter than a positive one,Why do mothers want their daughters to participate in beauty pageants, Ive also seen mothers make their daughter enter pageants why do you do this what are you trying to teach your daughter or son?
Alright, so here is my problem: I'm currently an Early Childhood Education major at a technical college, and I work at a daycare center. I've been doing my research, and preschool teachers across the board do not make a lot of money.
I'm a single mom and I don't want to settle for a career that I love but doesn't make a lot of money. I don't need a 6 figure income, but I want more than a $10-$15 an hour job. I love teaching, and I love kids, but I'm quickly getting burned out and finding that at the end of the day I have less patience with my own daughter because I've been with children all day.
I'm still working on my general core classes, so I have some options. I am not opposed to getting a Bachelor's. In fact, it is in the plans.
I love to write, and I love English and Literature from all time periods and all types. I'm a great public speaker and good with people. I'm looking for a career path where I can use these skills in some english or fine arts capacity and be financially comfortable.
I'm open to ALL kinds of suggestions because, as I've said, I'm stumped.
Thanks!
Another detail I'd like to add is that I do not want to teach. I'm trying to get out of the stigma that in order to be around what I love I have to teach it to others.
my friends daughter is in her second year of preschool.
my friend was late this morning cuz her daughter forgot her homework and she had to go home and get it.
i think this is ridiculous. she was late for work to bring in her 4 year olds homework...she said she HAD to cuz her 4 year old is a nut case about it....then she defended 'homework' like its a good idea...
ok, it made you late for work and its making her 4 year old a head case...
for what? to teach them to bring in their homework...um, sounds to me like mom is the one remembering to bring in the homework.
i'm getting so tired of watching parents of children the same age as mine, doing things for their kids over and over and then saying its training the child. to me, it looks like its training the parents!
what is the point of homework in preschool anyway!
Friday, October 30, 2009
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